If you find yourself searching the web for a “how to attract your husband” guide, you are probably aware that most married women, sooner or later, are faced with the same problem; they find that their husband is no longer attracted to them.
It is not easy to acknowledge a painful truth; most of them feel disappointed, angry, deprived of their self-confidence. Above all, they are scared of losing their husband for good. If you feel like your marriage is going through a rough faze and fear your husband is no longer attracted to you, you should read the article carefully.
Lack of attraction in marriage is a serious thing and it usually reflects other problems not always connected to the relationship between spouses; career turbulence, financial difficulties, illness etc. The old spark will not be lit by simply putting on sexy lingerie, a lot of perfume and leather high heeled boots. Looking like a sex bomb for one night can surely help, but it won’t fix the problem permanently. It goes with saying that you should take care of your appearance (for your own sake) but to attract your husband again, focus on the following:
Remember when you first start dating, the sexual appeal was do strong that you couldn’t keep your hands off each other. You were making love all the time in everything you did. Making love doesn’t refer only to sex; holding hands while walking in the park, talking over the dinner, watching a movie, all the little things you did together, were like making love. They were bringing you closer together and made both of you happy. Can you recall the last time you’ve felt like this?
Routine and habits have become a part of your marriage, but try to bring in a little change and things will look better.
Let the habitual, cursory good-night –kiss last a little bit longer, embrace your husband when he isn’t expecting (avoid doing it while the important game is on), stroke his hair while you are passing by. Don’t expect him to do same at first. Be patient and wait for him to start noticing these changes.
Plan the time for each other
You’ve heard this one before, but the importance of finding the time for each other can’t be overestimated. Work, housekeeping, taking care of children, require almost all your strength. Sometimes you barley find a time to take a decent shower and you wonder how to find time for the two of you.
Plan and prioritize. Pick a day when you can spend the evening together. Forget about doing laundry, cooking, etc. Put the children to bed and devote your self to each other. Turn off the TV, order in or have plain sandwiches and a beer and TALK, TALK, TALK. It is strictly forbidden to talk about your every day’s life, work and children.
For one night in a week, act like you’ve just met; talk about philosophy, comment an interesting book or article you’ve read, discuss the current affair, sports, everything that brought you together in the first place. Make your husband fall in love with you again, be happy, confident, interesting.
Look forward to this evening like you did when you were dating. It is important to make this a regular, weekly event. That will show your husband that he is still on top of your priority list.
In the beginning you were thrilled while listening to him talking about himself, his feelings, plans, interest. None of them seemed silly. Now when he starts talking about his high-school band and the one hit they’ve had, you interrupt him and change the subject. I agree, it is boring to listen to the same story all over again, but be aware that this is his way of drawing your attention.
Once you were proud of him, he was your hero and he needs to see the same admiration so he could allow himself to share his insecurities and show his weakness. Try to take an active part in conversation, show him that you have faith in him and he will turn to you again.
Maybe you are surprised that I didn’t mentioned sex. Don’t be. When things between couples are good, sex comes as a cherry on top. Correspondingly, the absence of it indicates a profound, hidden problem.
To attract your husband and have a passionate marriage again, think about what you’ve just read. Try to bring these changes into your life. You might be surprised how improved your marriage will become.